Jealousy – big word, big feeling!
I was called to write this today. I have been receiving signs that this is something that’s coming up a bit. People sitting in quarantine and consuming social media, seeing posts of someone who might seem to live more freely than others in this time of social distancing or might seem to be coping better with the situation or or or…
I have to say that years ago, I struggled with jealousy myself and in some parts in my life, I can still go down a path of not trusting enough and being jealous, but in general, I don’t feel jealous towards people at all.
I love people. If others are living their lives in ways that make them happy, I feel very happy for them, too. I don’t ever think: ‘He/she doesn’t deserve this or I want to be her’ or ‘they don’t know what people go through, because the live totally differently’ or ‘they have so much money, I won’t every be that rich or things like this’… I don’t.
Since I believe that everybody is the creator of their own life, I know that I can create the life I want to live. And everybody else can do that too. It’s everybody’s responsibility to take charge of their own lives. I feel very happy when other people live the life of their dreams. That makes me even more trust in myself that I can do that too.
The thing is, that there are choices that everybody can make every day, every minute and every second that can bring her/him closer to their dream other further away. It’s in our hands, everybody! Things don’t just happen to us, we are powerful creators!
It doesn’t make any sense to be jealous of somebody living their dream when you have other dreams that you are actively working towards.
I will give an example from my own life, so that it makes more sense what I am talking about:
I’ve been feeling a bit of distancing from people I know fueled by jealousy. Sentences like: ‘Not everybody is in Hawaii right now’ or ‘not everybody can homeschool their children’ (this was before everybody had to homeschool their children.)
And in fact, I am very sure that the people saying this don’t make choices every day to live in Hawaii or to be able to home-school or unschool their kids… they have other priorities in life than mine.
I have made choices in my life that brought me to what I am living now. I have made sacrifices that most people would never ever consider doing for themselves and their families. My dreams are big and I am following my path to get there, every day a bit closer.
This involved things like leaving the country I grew up in where my parents still live, taking on the task of unschooling my children, although this wasn’t the ideal choice for me, but still much better than sending them to a school where they would have suffered, giving up the profession I thought I’d be in for many years of my life, investing a lot of money into myself by hiring coaches, diving deep into self-development and looking at every part of my life, surrendering to every shadow I found, conquering marriage crises and again looking at deep hurt and limiting beliefs, going out of my comfort zone again and again to grow more, getting rid of everything we owned as a family to take a trip around the world, canceling my health insurance to save some money, and much more….
This path has brought me to looking inside and really practicing unconditional love with myself and others. I am creating what I desire and at the same time celebrating others for their lives and accomplishments. I am inspired by others, but not envious. There is nothing more emotional and wonderful for me than to see a person who is truly living her/his dream, stepping into his/her own freedom. And when I mean freedom this means something totally different to every single person on this planet.
Good bye jealousy! Welcome happiness, joy, empowerment and unconditional love!
If you really know what you want, take the steps to get there! Whole heartedly and with all consciousness! There is no need to waste your energy in jealousy when you can put it into living your own dream!
And if you find yourself jealous all the time and don’t work towards your dream, because you don’t dream big, I am here to help you! I can support you to step on your path of connecting to your heart’s desire, your own truth that has all the answers already within you and then take the steps to living your freedom and celebrating others that do the same. It all starts with unconditional love towards yourself!
Much love to you! Annika <3